“I wish I could have given [this book] to my younger self.” –Rebecca McLaughlin

Published on March 20, 2020 by Benjamin J. Montoya

The Good Book Company, 2020 | 160 pages

“I wish I could have given [this book] to my younger self.” –Rebecca McLaughlin


A rich portrayal of living faithfully and happily as a Christian with same-sex attraction that paints a compelling picture of discipleship for every believer.

In this powerful and personal book, author Rachel Gilson describes her own unexpected journey of coming out and coming to faith… and what came next. As she does so, she addresses many of the questions that Christians living with same-sex attraction are wrestling with: Am I consigned to a life of loneliness? How do I navigate my friendships? Will my desires ever change? Is there some greater purpose to all this?

Drawing on insights from the Bible and the experiences of others, Born Again This Way provides assurance and encouragement for Christians with same-sex attraction, and paints a compelling picture of discipleship for every believer.

Whatever your sexuality, this book is an inspiring testimony of how a life submitted to Jesus will be fulfilling and fruitful, but not always in the ways we might expect.


About the Author:

Rachel Gilson serves on the leadership team of Theological Development and Culture with Cru. Her writing has appeared in Christianity Today and for Desiring God and The Gospel Coalition, and she regularly speaks at churches and on college campuses. Rachel is wrapping up her Master of Divinity from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary, and lives in the Boston area with her husband and daughter.



“I thank God for Rachel Gilson. She has written a book that is both a biblically faithful and a very personal explanation of and rationale for what the Bible says about human sexuality. She writes to all of us, but especially to those who deal with the pain and confusion of same-sex attraction and sexual dysphoria. She knows this pain from the inside. So while she addresses these issues with theological carefulness, she does so with tremendous compassion, helping us to see that God’s design for sexuality really is very good, merciful news.”

Jon Bloom

Co-Founder and Board Chair, DesiringGod

“This is a brilliant book by a remarkable writer with an astonishing story and a decade of theological training. It offers no glib before-and-after narrative, but is a practical guide for sinners—same-sex attracted and otherwise—who dare to believe that Jesus is the best lover. I wish I could have given it to my younger self.”

Rebecca McLaughlin

Author, Confronting Christianity: 12 Hard Questions for the World’s Largest Religion

“This book is worth reading just to learn about and rejoice in God’s work through Rachel. But the book offers so much more, with rich biblical reflection on identity, marriage, singleness, romance, friendship, and more. Rachel’s honesty and clarity make this book useful for sharing in so many diverse contexts, whether you’re wanting to investigate Jesus and his gospel or you’re leading in the church.”

Collin Hansen

Editorial Director, The Gospel Coalition; Author, Blind Spots

“Born Again This Way is a heartfelt, wise, and hope-filled book. In it, Rachel Gilson offers same-sex-attracted Christians and those who love them a Christ-centered and story-driven reflection on how to thrive in Christ. Not content to speak in generalities, Rachel delves into the practical every- day struggles of same-sex attracted Christians, speaking to questions about friendship, singleness, sex, and identity. The result is a warmly compassionate and theologically perceptive harvest of insights that will inform, challenge, and encourage the reader. Highly recommended.”

Bruce Ashford

Professor of Theology and Culture, Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary

“Rachel Gilson’s life is a testimony to the sufficiency and power of the Scriptures. Her book is a testimony to a living faith that is based on that sufficiency and power. Rachel doesn’t just read Scripture faithfully—she lives it faithfully too. And her book challenges me, likewise, to grow in my faith beyond a life of comfort and easy answers.”

Karen Swallow Prior

Author, On Reading Well and Fierce Convictions

“This book has been missing from the shelves of the LGBT+ conversation for too long. People who are walking (or wondering if they should walk) a similar path to Rachel’s will feel seen, known, and loved as they read these tenderhearted and gospel-centered pages.”

Laurie Krieg

Author; Teacher; Hole in My Heart Podcast Host

“Rachel Gilson masterfully and disarmingly presents a winsome narrative and a solid Christian theology of sexuality that is much needed in to- day’s world. With so much confusion and polarization surrounding such issues, she offers a refreshingly honest perspective that is balanced and nuanced; there is lament and there is satisfaction, and amazingly they can coexist! Reading this book feels like you are sitting at coffee with her and that she cares for you.”

Allen Yeh

Associate Professor of Intercultural Studies & Missiology, Biola University, Cook School of Intercultural Studies

“This is a rich and unique contribution to the myriad stories of gay or same-sex attracted Christians who have committed to the counter-cultural center of truth and love where Jesus is Lord. Rachel Gilson explores the vital territory of God’s good news about our desires and demonstrates that in Christ, our destination is to live in the greater satisfaction of holiness. As a same-sex attracted woman, Rachel’s depiction of journeying through marriage with her husband, and of coming to knowing Jesus more deeply through her wrestle with sexuality, is a great gift and truly a must-read for all.”

David Bennett

Author, A War of Loves, and OCCA Research Fellow

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BORN AGAIN THIS WAY, by Rachel Gilson

The Good Book Company, 2020 | 160 pages

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